Therapy for the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Growing up with an emotionally immature parent leaves you feeling chronically unwanted, unseen and misunderstood.
You've always sensed something was off about the way your parents treated you. You wondered why they were so judgmental, critical, or short with you and yet so pleasant or loved by their co-workers or friends. For a lot of years, you likely chalked it up to you just not being good enough for them, no matter how hard you tried.
You likely clung to the hope that maybe if they just knew the depth of the pain they have caused you, they'd change. Or, if they received some kind of help, your relationship dynamics could shift, and they would finally show up for you in the way you need.
And if you're anything like the other anxious adults I have treated, you've likely read the various self-help books and might have even tried therapy for this before. You may even fully understand intellectually that your parent is emotionally immature, but knowing that doesn't seem to help the constant rumination, resentment, and pain from never feeling good enough for them.
You likely clung to the hope that maybe if they just knew the depth of the pain they have caused you, they'd change. Or, if they received some kind of help, your relationship dynamics could shift, and they would finally show up for you in the way you need.
And if you're anything like the other anxious adults I have treated, you've likely read the various self-help books and might have even tried therapy for this before. You may even fully understand intellectually that your parent is emotionally immature, but knowing that doesn't seem to help the constant rumination, resentment, and pain from never feeling good enough for them.
It's never that you weren't good enough.
And it won't.
Healing from an emotionally immature parent requires more than just an intellectual acceptance. True healing requires an honest exploration into the very core of your experiences; a deep dive into understanding not just "what happened" but the ways you made sense of this pain and continue to blame yourself for it. It's about undoing all the ways you try to change and twist and contort yourself into being something worthy in their eyes. Only then can you create space to see your true intrinsic worth and stop chasing after external validation.
It's time to come home.
It's time to come home.
It's about returning to your true self, letting go of your parents' painful words, and reclaiming your authentic identity that has been overshadowed along the way.
I call this work 'homecoming' for a reason.
By diving deep into your past to understand how your parents behaviours have shaped you, we will identify the patterns and beliefs that don't truly belong to you and are no longer serving you.
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And here's how we'll do it:
Through guided trauma processing, we safely move and release pent-up emotions, traumas, and beliefs that have kept you stuck or in emotional pain.
We rewrite your personal narrative according to your personal values. By focusing on your strengths, quirks, and the genuine experiences that shaped you, we learn to love you for you.
We equip you with coping skills tailored specifically for handling emotionally immature parents, so that you can protect your well-being and ensure you remain empowered in the face of their persistently immature dynamics today.
And for those who may need it: we engage in a thoughtful exploration to determine whether going no-contact is the right choice for you. I give you the space and considerations needed to help you make an informed decision about the level of family interaction that best serves your mental and emotional well-being.
By diving deep into your past to understand how your parents' behaviors have shaped you, we will identify the patterns and beliefs that don't truly belong to you and are no longer serving you.
BOOK NOW
And here's how we'll do it:
Through guided trauma processing, we safely move and release pent-up emotions, traumas, and beliefs that have kept you stuck or in
deep emotional pain.
deep emotional pain.
We rewrite your personal narrative according to your personal values. By focusing on your strengths, quirks, and the genuine experiences that shaped you, you learn to love yourself for who you truly are.
We equip you with coping skills tailored specifically for handling emotionally immature parents, so that you can protect your well-being and ensure you remain empowered in the face of their persistently immature dynamics.
And for those who may need it, we engage in a thoughtful exploration to determine whether going no-contact is the right choice for you. I provide the space and reflections needed to help you make an informed decision about the level of family interaction that best serves your mental and emotional well-being.
