Welcome
You likely had to squash your own desires just for the chance to be acknowledged. You found yourself taking on your parents' interests or maybe even joining in on their judgments or other mean behavior—not out of true alignment, but from a desperate need for closeness with them. In doing so, you've learned to become a performer for others, trying so hard to just be lovable and worthy in hopes that someone finally sees you.
Prior to becoming a therapist, I spent years working in humanitarian assistance. As someone who feels deeply passionate about alleviating injustices in the world, I expected to work in front-line social activism for the rest of my life.
But it was in my early career that I realized so much of the pain experienced by others was a result of the shame-based and hypercritical parenting techniques that were bestowed upon them. And yet, to my surprise (and mild rage), no one seemed to bat an eye at these problematic approaches.
This type of parenting has devastating consequences. It causes you to distrust yourself and to discard your inner world, leaving you with a pervasive feeling of never being good enough. It causes you to turn to perfectionism as a way to cover up the constant wondering of 'why don't they actually like me?' And because of the insidious and sneaky nature of this abuse, you likely continue to blame yourself for the way you were treated.
In a world where emotional abuse often goes unrecognized, my mission: to help survivors of emotionally abusive parents rebuild their trust in themselves and reclaim their inner world after experiencing such deeply invisible trauma.
I am not a jack-of-all-trades therapist. Instead, my writing and my clinical work exist to help survivors everywhere recognize their worth and heal the wounds inflicted by those who were supposed to protect and nurture them the most.
You likely had to squash your own desires just for the chance to be acknowledged. You found yourself taking on your parents' interests or maybe even joining in on their judgments or other mean behavior—not out of true alignment, but from a desperate need for closeness with them. In doing so, you've learned to become a performer for others, trying so hard to just be lovable and worthy in hopes that someone finally sees you.
Prior to becoming a therapist, I spent years working in humanitarian assistance. As someone who feels deeply passionate about alleviating injustices in the world, I expected to work in front-line social activism for the rest of my life.
But it was in my early career that I realized so much of the pain experienced by others was a result of the shame-based and hypercritical parenting techniques that were bestowed upon them. And yet, to my surprise (and mild rage), no one seemed to bat an eye at these problematic approaches.
This type of parenting has devastating consequences. It causes you to distrust yourself and to discard your inner world, leaving you with a pervasive feeling of never being good enough. It causes you to turn to perfectionism as a way to cover up the constant wondering of 'why don't they actually like me?' And because of the insidious and sneaky nature of this abuse, you likely continue to blame yourself for the way you were treated.
In a world where emotional abuse often goes unrecognized, my mission: to help survivors of emotionally abusive parents rebuild their trust in themselves and reclaim their inner world after experiencing such deeply invisible trauma.
I am not a jack-of-all-trades therapist. Instead, my writing and my clinical work exist to help survivors everywhere recognize their worth and heal the wounds inflicted by those who were supposed to protect and nurture them the most.
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EMDR Approved Clinician | Certificate in Somatic Trauma Therapy | Gottman Level 1 | EFT Level 1 | Specialized Certificate in Treating the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents | Trained in Enhanced Cognitive Behavioral Therapy | Certificate in Healing Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse | Trained in Schema Therapy
Qualifications
Education
Began Doctoral Studies |
Trauma and Narcissistic Defenses
2022
2020
Awarded Master of Arts in Humanitarian Aid | "Sexual Violence Against Men as a Weapon of War"
Awarded Master of Social Work (MSW) | "Gender Based Violence in East Africa"
2015
Awarded Bachelor of Social Work (BSW)
2013